Behind the Scenes š¬š: 2 Years of The Sisterhood + the Truth About Building Your Dreams
Ever look back and realize just how much can change in two years? The Sisterhood Community started as a visionāa place for women to grow, connect, and take care of themselves in ways that truly matter. Now, two years later, itās become something bigger than I could have imagined. In this episode, weāre celebrating the journey, the lessons, and the leaps of faith it took to get here. Whether youāve been with me since day one or are just finding this space, I hope this conversation inspires you to step boldly into your own dreams.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE CHAT ABOUT:
ā» The moments that shaped The Sisterhood over the past two years
ā» The fears, doubts, and mindset shifts that came with the journey
ā» What I had to leave behind to step fully into this vision
ā» The power of community and why we need each other
ā» Whatās next for The Sisterhoodāand how you can be part of it
LETāS DIVE IN š¤
Hey hey Sisterhood! With the kickoff of Spring in The Sisterhood Membership, weāre officially celebrating TWO years of this incredible community, and I canāt help but reflect on what this journey has truly been aboutābecoming, unbecoming, and having the shaky courage to start over.
Two years ago, I walked away from something that had been a massive part of my life for over a decade. I didnāt know exactly what I was stepping intoāonly that I couldnāt stay where I was.
And let me tell you⦠when you start over, itās messy. Itās uncomfortable. You second-guess yourself. You wonder if youāre making a mistake. And yet, some of the most defining moments of our lives come not when we have all the answers, but when we find the courage to move forward anyway.
My trainer said something in class the other day that really stuck with me:
"Think about the moments in your life that youāre most proud of."
And as I started scanning through my own journey, I noticed something: the moments Iām most proud of werenāt the ones where everything felt easy, safe, or certain. They were the moments when I left. The moments I laid something down, not knowing what was next. The moments I took a leap before I felt ready.
Thatās what todayās episode is aboutāleaving, laying down, and leaping into your dreams. Because if youāre feeling that pull to step into something new, but fear is keeping you stuck? I see you. I get it. And today, I want to remind you: You donāt need all the answers. You just need to take the next step.
Letās dive in.
THE INNER BATTLE OF LEAVING, LAYING DOWN, AND LEAPING
I call it shaky courage because thatās exactly what it feels likeāfear and faith tangled together. Itās terrifying. Itās uncertain. And yet, deep down, you know⦠itās necessary.
Maybe youāre feeling that nudge right now. That quiet, nagging whisper in your gut that something isnāt quite right. Some days, you can ignore it. Other days, itās so loud it makes your chest tight.
You tell yourself:
šš¼āMaybe Iām overthinking.ā
šš¼ āMaybe I should just be grateful for what I have.ā
šš¼ āWhat if I make the wrong choice? What if I regret it?ā
But can I be honest with you?
If youāve been feeling that pull for a whileāif something in you is craving more, needing change, feeling restlessā thatās not just a passing thought. Thatās your soul telling you itās time.
I know this because Iāve been there.
I know what itās like to hold onto something longer than I should because itās familiar.
I know what itās like to wake up every day with that tight feeling in my chest, knowing I need to move forward but being scared out of my mind to actually do it.
I know what itās like to wish someone would just tell me what to doāto give me the guarantee that if I leave, if I lay it down, if I take the leap⦠itāll all work out.
But hereās the truth:
No one can make that choice for you.
There will be no perfect timing.
No one is coming to give you permission.
This is your life.
And if you donāt choose you, who will?
SHAKY COURAGE
Iāve had to make some really hard decisions in my life. Decisions that didnāt come with a roadmap or a guarantee. Decisions that, at the time, felt impossible to make.
And I wonder if youāve been there, tooāstaring at a crossroads, heart pounding, knowing deep down that staying where you are isnāt an option anymore⦠but terrified of what stepping forward might cost you.
I get it.
I remember calling off my wedding at 22āknowing in my gut I wasnāt ready, even though I couldnāt fully explain why. It wouldāve been so much easier to go through with it, to silence the whisper inside me and keep everyone else happy. But deep down, I knew that easy wasnāt the same as right.
I remember moving from Michigan to Miami, leaving behind everything familiar to chase something I couldnāt quite name yetāa version of myself I hadnāt met but knew I was meant to become. It was exciting, sure, but also lonely, overwhelming, and filled with moments where I second-guessed everything.
I remember walking away from a stable teaching career, stepping into a world where there were no paychecks waiting every two weeks, no certaintyājust a calling I couldnāt shake and a dream that felt too big for me.
I remember closing the doors on my Beachbody community after pouring a decade of my heart into it. Something that once felt like my purpose no longer fit who I was becoming, and as much as I wanted to hold on, I knew that holding on would cost me more than letting go.
Each one of these moments? They werenāt easy.
They werenāt glamorous.
They werenāt the kind of bold, fearless leaps you see in movies.
They were messy.
They were filled with doubts, late-night journaling, and whispered prayers of āGod, where are you in thisā¦where are you taking meā¦help me feel brave.ā
They were shaky courage momentsāwhere fear and faith had to meet while I took the next step.
And this is where I need to say something that might go against what you've been told:
A lot of people will tell you that faith and fear canāt coexist. That if youāre really trusting God, you shouldnāt feel afraid. But I think thatās garbage.
Because in the moments of my biggest fear, I had to cling tightest to my glimmer of faith.
Faith isnāt the absence of fearāitās what allows you to keep moving in spite of it.
Itās standing in the unknown with shaky hands and a racing heart and saying, āGod, I donāt know where this road leads, but I trust that You do.ā
And maybe youāre standing in a moment like that right now.
Maybe youāre staring at the life youāve built, realizing that parts of it donāt fit anymore, but walking away feels too scary.
Maybe you know you need to lay something down, but you donāt know who you are without it.
Maybe you feel like God is calling you into something new, but imposter syndrome is screaming, āWho do you think you are?ā
Sister, I see you. Iāve been you. And I need you to hear this:
You are not crazy for wanting more.
You are not selfish for choosing yourself.
You are not weak for feeling scared.
You are standing in the doorway of your next season. And yes, itās terrifying. But itās also where your becoming begins.
THE INNER BATTLE OF LEAPING
Hereās what nobody tells you about taking a leap: the hardest part isnāt the leap itself.
Itās the battle in your mind before you ever make the move.
The overthinking.
The doubting.
The questioning.
The part where you keep running circles around the same what ifs over and over again:
ā What if I fail?
ā What if I regret this?
ā What if I let people down?
ā What if I donāt actually have what it takes?
And yet⦠if youāre really honest with yourself, thereās another voice, whispering just as loud:
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But what if this is exactly what Iām supposed to do?
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What if this changes everything?
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What if this is the moment I finally step into who I was always meant to be?
This is the war every woman fights when sheās standing at the edge of something bigger than herself. And I know because Iāve been in that fight more times than I can count.
And so has my sister-in-lawā¦which truly inspired me that MORE WOMEN NEED THIS CONVERSATION. A little backstory:
She has a stable job, a good life, sheās a wonderful wife + mom, has the boat and houseā everything she was āsupposedā to want. But there was this pull. This deep knowing that she was meant for something different. Something more.
For her, that more wasnāt randomāit was rooted in her own story. And I think thatās true for all of us. When you feel that pull to a deeper calling it often stems from a deep struggle.
For my SIL, she had walked through pregnancy and felt the weight of trying to find the care, support, and resources she deeply needed but struggled to access. She saw the gaps. She felt the frustration. And instead of just accepting that as āthe way it is,ā she decided to do something about it.
She became a doula.
Because she knew that no woman should have to navigate the complexities of pregnancy and birth alone. She wanted to create what she wished had existed for her. A space where every birthing personāno matter their story, background, or circumstancesāfelt fully supported in their experience.
But before she ever stepped into this calling, she had to battle the same doubts that every woman faces when sheās on the verge of something new:
Who am I to do this?
What if I walk away from stability and it all falls apart?
What will people think if I fail?
And for a while, those questions won.
She told herself the timing wasnāt right. That maybe if she waited until she had more money, more confidence, more certainty, then sheād go for it.
But hereās what I need you to know:
Fear will always give you a reason to stay put.
Your brain will always try to keep you safe.
There will never be a moment when all the doubt magically disappears.
And thatās exactly what my SIL had to realize in her own journeyā
One day you just have to wake up and chose to ask yourself a different, more empowering set of questions:
š What if the fear never goes awayābut I do this anyway?
š What if regret feels worse than failure?
š What if I let myself bet on ME for once?
And so, she did it. She took the leap.
But let me be clearāthat wasnāt the end of the battle.
She didnāt wake up the next day magically fearless, bursting with confidence, ready to take on the world. No, sis.
She texted me, still freaking out.
Because thatās what happens when you step into something bigger than yourself.
She was questioning everything. What if I fail? What if people judge me? What if Iām not cut out for this?
And I reminded her of something I need to remind you of too:
Taking the leap doesnāt mean the fear vanishes. It means you refuse to let it be the thing that stops you.
She had to decideāover and over againāto keep going even though she was scared. Even though people had opinions. Even though the uncertainty made her stomach flip.
And you know what? Thatās normal.
We tell ourselves that once we āfinally go for it,ā weāll feel nothing but peace. But the truth? Peace doesnāt come before the leap.
It comes in the choosing. In the doing. In the showing up anyway.
So noāshe didnāt wait to be fearless.
She didnāt wait for the doubt to disappear.
She just started.
And the courage? It came in the doing.
So, friends, if youāre in the middle of your own inner battle right nowā¦
If youāve been waiting for the fear to disappear before you take the next stepā¦
If youāve been convincing yourself that youāll go for it āwhen the timing is rightāā¦
I need to tell you something.
The fear isnāt proof that youāre not ready.
Itās proof that youāre standing on the edge of something that matters.
And the real question isnāt āWhat if I fail?ā
Itās⦠āWhat if I donāt even try?ā
HOW TO LEAN INTO THE LEAP
So now youāre hereāstanding at the edge of your leap. Maybe youāve felt this pull for weeks, months, even years. You know youāre meant for more, but how do you actually step into it when the fear is screaming at you to stay put?
Hereās what I want you to do:
⨠Listen to the nudges.
That feeling in your gut? Itās not random. Itās not something to brush off. Itās leading you. Pay attention. Journal about it. Sit with it. Get quiet enough to hear what God is whispering beneath all the noise.
⨠Trust yourself faster.
How many times have you known what you needed to do but spent months talking yourself out of it? The more you listen to those nudges, the more you build trust with yourself. And the more you trust yourself, the easier it becomes to act on what you know.
⨠Let fear and faith coexist.
People love to say, Youāre either in fear or in faith. But I think thatās garbage. Some of my scariest moments were the ones where I had to cling tightest to faith. Fear doesnāt mean youāre on the wrong path. It just means youāre stepping into something that matters. So instead of waiting for the fear to go away, let it come along for the rideābut donāt let it grab the wheel.
⨠Look ahead to the YOU youāre becoming.
Imagine yourself one year from nowāfully in the thing youāve been scared to step into. What would she tell you? What would she want you to know? Because I promise you, one day, youāll look back on this moment and say:
"Iām so glad I did it scared."
⨠Lean on community.
You donāt have to do this alone. Surround yourself with people who remind you of your strength, who see you even when youāre doubting yourself. Because sometimes, when you forget who you are, you need people who will look you in the eye and remind you.
And if youāre looking for that kind of community, this is your invitation.
This spring inside The Sisterhood Membership, weāre walking this out together. Weāre stepping into our next-level selvesānot by waiting until we feel ready, but by choosing to move anyway. Weāre letting go of the fear thatās kept us small, rewriting the stories that no longer serve us, and surrounding ourselves with women who are on the same journey.
So if youāve been craving that spaceāa space where you can be seen, supported, and encouraged to take the next step in your own leapāThe Sisterhood is waiting for you. Come join us.
As we close out this episode, I just want to remind youāgrowth isnāt always glamorous. Sometimes it looks like leaving behind whatās familiar, laying down the weight of expectations, and taking a leap before you feel fully ready. But two years into this journey, I can tell you this: every step, every stretch, every moment of uncertainty has been worth it.
The Sisterhood isnāt just about meāitās about us. Itās about creating spaces where we can be real, where we can rise together, and where we can walk confidently into the dreams God has placed on our hearts.
So, if thereās something stirring inside you, if you feel that nudge to take a stepāconsider this your sign to go for it. Trust the process, trust yourself, and most importantly, trust that God has you every step of the way.
Iām so grateful for you, for this community, and for the journey ahead. Hereās to another year of stepping boldly into whatās next. Iāll see you right here, next week, on The Self Care Sisterhood Podcast.
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